I recently got married and I hadn’t anticipated how often I would get asked, ‘How is married life?’ to which I answer (as is expected)—‘It’s Great!’ I never expand much more than that and often nothing more is needed for the ears of the questioner, but there are a number of reasons I would give as to why it’s great being a newly wed:
1. When we got married, we got loads of presents—how can that not be wonderful? I would estimate that when you get married, you probably receive more gifts than you ever will on your birthday and Christmas combined in any given year as an adult.
2. You get to go on a dream holiday. Wedding planning is such a stressful affair that it is a treat to be able to leave it all behind and reflect on the wonderful day that you both shared and look ahead to the future. Also, when you tell any hotel or restaurant that you are newlyweds, you invariably get treated much better. In my world, it is always a ‘yes and amen’ to free things and great deals.
3. You get to live with your best friend. As well as it being a time of discovery (who is the one who managed to hide the fact that they were actually messy?) and doing ‘grown up’ things like setting up bank accounts—it’s amazing to not have to say goodbye to each other after spending the day together or spend hours travelling back and forth to see each other. You get to go back together to the place you now both call home.
4. Getting married shows you who you really are. More than that, you in many ways realise how selfish you are, because the very nature of marriage goes against merely making yourself happy or fulfilling your own needs. Marriage is to a great extent about sacrificial giving on a daily basis and was designed to give us a glimpse of how Christ loved the church (His people) and gave Himself up for her and how we as His church give up our lives to serve and honour Him. Being recently wed is a good daily reminder of this.
5. To put it very bluntly—We get to have sex now. We decided when we got together that we wanted to wait until we got married before having sex because we wanted to honour God in our relationship and live in a way that would please Him. Although it wasn’t always easy, it was worth waiting for. Sex does bring a new dynamic to the relationship and a greater level of intimacy; it also brings a greater level of vulnerability, so it is a blessing to know that the person you are sharing yourself with is completely committed to you for life (and has made a public vow before God and man). In addition, what you now share is not just a physical connection, but an emotional and spiritual one too—one that is not cloaked in any guilt, shame or secrecy, but crowned with joy and peace.
By Kazstarlet
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