People like to categorize, group things together (some of us more than others). Sometimes, we’ll take very different things, put them together, and make a whole new, wonderful thing. Take, peanut butter and jelly, or Linkin Park and Jay-Z (in my opinion, at least), or coffee and chocolate (Coffee Crisp), for example. All great on their own, and even better when joined together. The words saved, sexy and sanctified are words not often found together. Throwing ‘sexy’ into the mix tends to throw people off, and makes church pew-fillers incredibly uneasy. But the truth is, these words were, in their essence, designed by God to go together.
We were all born under the power of sin (Gal 5:1). Through God’s awesome and everlasting love for us, He sent His Son Jesus to die for us, setting us free, saving us, so that we could have eternal life with God in Heaven (John 3:16). We needed a Saviour. If we accept Jesus as our Saviour, we are saved. That’s the bottom line. There’s really not much more to it (Thank God)! When God takes a hold of our lives by His love, we’re forever changed.
Now that I am a Christian (saved), I begin to see with greater clarity the sin that surrounds us in this world, and how deeply entrenched we all are in our sins (Eph 18-19). Things that were initially meant to be a wonderful gift from God to His children are now distorted by the weight of sin, especially the gift of sex. Everywhere you turn, you are bombarded with sexual innuendos, images, and temptations. Pre-marital sex has become the norm, porn is one of the world’s leading industries, and people are giving themselves to anyone and everything (not going to get into details here…read between the lines). The world’s obsession with sex, and all things “sexy” is no surprise to God. He created us as sexual beings. But, God’s intention for sex was to be a gift, joining a man and woman as one flesh in holy matrimony, allowing them to start a family within the system designed by Him. Sin has this nasty way of distorting awesome things. Therefore, sexiness, or being sexy was never meant to be what we see in the world today.
‘Sexy’ begins in the heart.
Jesus should always be the first one our hearts are attracted to. In seeking Him first, we are better able to distinguish who a good mate would be for our lives, and how to attract that special person. The Bible has a very different way of defining sexy than the world does. Forget everything Glamour Magazine tells you, ladies, instead, pick up your Bible, turn to 1 Timothy 2: 9-10, and let that be your guide.
According to God, “modest is hottest”
So let a man see your heart, and your mind, not your cleavage, or thong straps. In revealing too much of your body, you are inadvertently telling men how they should treat you, what impression to have of you, and how you feel about yourself and your value. Remember, you are a daughter of the Most High King—a princess. Dress like it, and demand the respect that comes with that title. I’d be hard-pressed to find the Dutchess of Cambridge walking around in a low-cut top. Kate knows who she is representing—royalty. So are you.
Yes, you are sexy, because God made you sexy, And just like sex, you are a gift.
A pretty little package coming down the aisle, fashioned in white satin and lace, for a man of God, who put a ring on it, to unwrap on the wedding night.
You are sanctified, ‘set apart’ for God, who saved you and loved you first, and then to your future husband. That means that as women of God, we are called to be different than the women of this world, to walk in honor and discretion (Prov. 11:22), recognizing the wonderful treasure that our beauty, sexiness and sexuality really is. You are saved, sexy, and sanctified. A beautiful combination created by God.
Written by Octavia Ahsan, Canada
(Check out Octavia’s personal blog HERE)