It is a truth universally known that a woman is more concerned with the internal qualities of a partner, than perhaps her physically focused male counterparts. Even though the majority of us would probably prefer a man with a six-pack as opposed to a keg, we recognize it becomes meaningless if his internal being is out of shape. As we mature and our ovaries scream louder. We look less at the kinds of clothes he wears or the kind of car he drives and more at the kind of potential father, husband and life mate he’ll be.
As we are now in an age where women do not necessarily “need a man” to flourish in society, concepts such as submission become more alien to us than in the same way as generations past. In essence, the 21st century man does not have it easy. So in order for us to willingly submit to a man, he must be a man worth submitting to… So take note of the five qualities we look for in a man:
5. Leadership
As independent as we claim to be, all women appreciate a man with strong leadership skills. Although he does not have to desire to be the next Barack Obama, we love a man who exerts something presidential about his aura. We are looking out for the potential head of our household, so he must not be afraid of decision-making and risk taking.
4. Passion/Ambition
Passion is one of the most infectious qualities that a man can possess. We thrive off a man who is passionate about what he does, regardless of what it is. In addition, women are highly attracted to men who clearly show vision, ambition and have a lifestyle that reflect these. We are looking for men who not only talk the talk, but also walk the walk, so that we can at some point walk alongside them.
3. True Friendship
Essentially, women don’t just want to be romanced, they want to be friends! We desire someone that we can be 100% ourselves with. A man who, when all is stripped away, (i.e. the make up, the hair do, the high heels) we can converse, laugh and be free with entirety. There is nothing more powerful than a relationship that is deep-rooted in friendship.
2. Security
As advanced as we are as women, and as much as we feel we can fend for ourselves, we’re looking for someone who has the ability to provide us with security. From emotional security, to financial security, to physical security, women adhere more to men who have the potential to give us that safety net that we once may have had with our families. We appreciate the fact that there are those men who “may not be there yet”, but we observe for clues in a man’s actions that show that he is working towards being a provider.
1. A Believer
For most women of faith, it is fundamental for them to be with a man who has the same belief system and values as their own. There is nothing worse than being with someone, who you essentially feel that you have to compromise your lifestyle for. Although it may seem insignificant at first, many relationships dissolve because of the variance of values. If God is number one in her life, be assured that she is looking for God to be number one her partner’s life too.
