I saw this tweet the other day. It was posted by one of the Capital Xtra breakfast show hosts.
Now I’ll be honest. I’m a sucker for a smart and thought provoking tweet concerning relationships. I can’t help myself; I’m drawn to them like bees to… well… Honey! And all I can think of is advice I’ve given in the past and advice I could give in the future. These tweets build on my perspective and knowledge which helps me understand relationships better and subsequently give better advice. I don’t always agree with what I read but it’s interesting to see other people’s views on the subject. So below are my thoughts on the tweet.
This tweet speaks on a big misconception people have about love. Most people believe you have to earn love and work to keep it “alive”. That is seriously false information. Love isn’t earned, it is freely given. It doesn’t require work because it doesn’t require anything but a willingness to love. We were built by God out of love, to give love to him and all mankind. Don’t forget that!
Relationships are work! They require time, thought, commitment, or effort. Our relationship with God requires work. This means actively building a relationship through prayer, reading the Bible, etc. Our friendships require work, if you stopped calling your friends and put in no effort to your friendship there will be no friendship to speak of. Even family relationships require work. We are genetically programmed to love these people but that doesn’t automatically mean we will always have a relationship with them. That has to be maintained and developed over time.
Effort doesn’t necessarily imply hardship. People synonymously put effort with sweating, back breaking hard work. And yes it can be. But it doesn’t have to be. Relationships will go through periods of hardship and periods of calm. It doesn’t always have to be a struggle to keep the relationship going. And frankly if it is always a struggle, that relationship should be re-evaluated and possibly let go.
Now I do not claim to have all the answers. But I have been blessed with a few. This tweet is a bright shining answer to a lot of people’s questions and queries.
“Why doesn’t he call me?” – have you tried calling him? You have to do some work too.
“I don’t think ill ever truly love anyone.” – #LIES. God has created us to love. It is inbuilt within you. You’re the only one blocking that.
So ladies please remember these wise words written by a very funny man. Work on your relationships otherwise they will fail. Love others like God loves us – it is one of the most natural instincts we have.
By Honey Gabriel