I need to confess something straight away. I am not one of those girls who has thought about their wedding since they could walk. If anything, I am the type of girl that would quite go for the idea of eloping—since it seems relatively stress-free, cheap and doesn’t require hundreds of eyes staring at me for the best part of twelve hours. The only thing that quenched my desire to run away and get married was the thought of being met at Heathrow Terminal 5 by the hot displeasure of my mother upon my return.
I feel that I must stress the reasons I have found this whole planning affair a challenge (challenge being the biggest euphemism, ever) in the first instance. It is because I am an indecisive perfectionist that doesn’t enjoy event planning of any sort, which—as you can imagine— is not the best combination. That said, it is also because deep down I am most looking forward to marrying my best friend more than the fanfare that precedes it.
Nonetheless here we are, two months until the big day and I certainly have a thing or four to share about the challenges of planning a wedding:
Weddings can be very expensive. As soon as any retailer hears the word ‘wedding’, they multiply their prices by ten and add a couple more pounds in for good measure. And they will smile as they do it.
BALANCE
Trying to balance both sets of parents’ wishes along with your own and your spouse-to-be’s could at times even test the skills of a seasoned hostage negotiator. It’s important to write down what type of day you want at the very beginning and as much is possible, hold to that whilst still honouring both sides of the family where you can—especially if they are the ones that will be splashing the cash on your big day.
GUEST LIST
Managing the guest list. This may be relatively simple if you come from a small family and have a few tight-knit friends; however, when your side of the family alone accounts for about a hundred people including children—speak less of other friends and loved ones—finding a way of accommodating as many people as possible without your bank balance competing with that of Greece’s is difficult.
TIME
It is time-consuming. If this is compounded by the fact that you are working full-time and have also given yourself six months to plan—there will be times when you want to find yourself in a small, quiet, dark room. Be that as it may, I do strongly vouch for doing it in a relatively short period of time, since firstly spending a year or more planning will not necessarily equate to a better, problem-free day—neither will it save you any money.
DRESS
With all of that said, there are many wonderful things to keep in mind and that will help you (or perhaps maybe just me) to keep it all in perspective. It is a one time, joyous occasion that you will share with all your nearest and dearest. You will get to wear a pretty dress AND eat as much cake as your heart desires. Lastly, it is a defining moment where you commit before God to loving, caring, honouring and supporting that special person you have been blessed to find.
So when you are knee-deep in picking out ribbon in varying shades of beige and fast losing the will to go on, keep the bigger picture in mind. It’ll be worth it in the end!
Written by Kazstarlet
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